優 (Kanji for kindhearted/excel)

JERK: by itself, it means nice, but in a JUKUGO, it means EXCEL, or, for some reason, ACTOR.

Also this kanji has the distinction of being a DOUBLE dupe: there's two やさしいs AND two すぐれるs!

Onyomi

YUU

YOU are such a kindhearted person to grieve for the loss of my mom's cousin's great-aunt twice removed, whom you've never even met!

In other words, a kindhearted PERSON often excels at grief.

( に or が ) ずぐ＊れる	to outdo, to be superior. ★★☆☆☆
やさ＊しい	warm-hearted. , emphasis on the personality, They make people feel comfortable and understand the feelings of others. Young people can use 優しい人 as kind of a put-down, like "He's just a 'nice guy.'" ★★★★★

優先(ゆうせん) する	priority ★★★☆☆ 優 (kindhearted/excel) + 先 (earlier/ the tip) = 優先 (priority) priority (make it a priority: xxx優先されてる）
俳優(はいゆう)	actor ★★★☆☆ 俳 (actor) + 優 (kindhearted/excel) = 俳優 (actor)
優秀(ゆうしゅう) な	superior ★★☆☆☆ 優 (kindhearted/excel) + 秀 (excel) = 優秀 (superior) superior, excellent
男優(だんゆう)	actor ★★☆☆☆ 男 (man) + 優 (kindhearted/excel) = 男優 (actor)
女優(じょゆう)	actress ★★☆☆☆ 女 (woman) + 優 (kindhearted/excel) = 女優 (actress)

	Meaning	Hint	Radical
憂	grieve	no person
優	kindhearted/excel	PERSON	人

Without a kindhearted PERSON in your life, you'll grieve.